Making it Work with International Romances

Just a few short years ago, something like internet dating was more of a taboo than anything else. Fast-forward to today however and it would probably be hard to find someone who has never created an internet dating profile before. There are so many ways people can date online, and some are not even looking for a relationship, there are those who are just looking to hook up, you can check it out yourself to see what we mean. So internet dating is certainly full of surprises nowadays.

I reckon though that it’s more of a compatibility thing than having anything to do with practicality, i.e. it’s not so much that you think online dating is more practical than going out and meeting potential love matches in bars, etc, but rather that you have some sort of basic starting point with regards to what you’re looking for if you go it the online route. For instance, if you’re specifically looking to date people who practice the same religion as you, then you are able to head to a Christian or a muslim chat room to meet people of similar faith. In fact, even just by reading the profile of a potential match, you can tell simple things that you may be looking for, such as if they drink or not. In the same way, they can get a full briefing on everything you have shared about yourself.

I don’t want to get too deep into internet dating though, because that’s not what the topic of this post is about. This post is about one of the results of online dating, which is the formulation of a romance that transcends international borders.

Of course, international romances don’t only develop as a result of online dating – in fact, I think more of them develop while you’re actually out there traveling, such as a very inspiring story of how a then-young couple from China met in Cairo while traveling separately and then went back home to tie the knot and make it official.

Relationships are a lot of hard work as is (if you’re trying to build one with someone local), so you can only imagine how much harder it must be trying to make a romance work across international borders and often across oceans. It definitely won’t be easy, but it can be done.

Keeping in touch

I think rather fortunately I probably don’t have to spell it out explicitly because this sort of happens naturally, how you’d probably keep in touch more often than couples that live together do. It’s the simple things that matter the most, such as how something seemingly small went on to shape how your day turned out.

Overcoming lack of intimacy

One of the big downsides of long-distance relationships that many people experience (but few mention) is the lack of physical contact. In your average relationship, people hold hands, cuddle, kiss, sit together, and sleep together. In a long-distance relationship close contact, intimacy and romance can be harder to receive on a regular basis. Though there are some ways people have developed to get around this. It’s not just getting a fake pussy or dildo and pretending it is your partner. The advent of video chat and webcams have allowed for deeper intimate conversations. Communication is key, and it is important to talk with your partner about any struggles you are having.

Making plans to meet

The Tanzanian island of Zanzibar jumps to mind as an example of a meeting point for many lovers across the world who are trying to keep their cross-border flames alive, but basically, it can be symbolic as well – symbolic of the fact that you just have to take some time to meet up, somewhere, somehow. If this is a special meet-up, then you may want to look at incorporating pheromones for women perfume to bring up that attraction when you eventually meet.

The ultimate end-goal

We can beat about the bush and put things off as much as we like, perhaps enjoying an extended phase of the relationship we’ll never get to enjoy again, but ultimately the end-goal needs to be one that entails one of you making the sacrifice to move in with the other and start a life together. This means that lots of other plans have to be made, such as perhaps a consultation with Joshua L. Goldstein (specialist immigration law firm), after which time they must be followed up with action.